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A mockery of trust.

   Recently I read a very disturbing piece of news- actually it is an everyday occurrence - but, this article was rather upsetting. It was about a young woman who had been raped by her father for nearly 12 years! Raped....by her father. Such cases have been reported countless times  over the years. But, fathers?!! Of all the men?!! It all sounds ghastly and so unbelievable! 
      A father is the first man in a girl's life whom she can trust blindly. He is her parent on whom she depends for her upbringing; who provides her with everything she needs. He is the one who protects her from the negative elements in her life. He is her hero who teaches her to bravely face the harsh realities of  her life. And a father is also the man on whom a girls bases her idea of her future life partner.  And for a father, his daughter is a princess on whom he dotes and showers his unconditional, unending love.  For whom a daughter always remains his 'little girl' no matter how much she ages! 
    So, is it really possible for a man to stoop to such level and betray his daughter's trust? What is it that brings out the devil in this very same father and makes him vitiate the most beautiful relationship in the world? And when a man does indulge in this horrid act, what does that poor girl go through? WIll she ever be able to trust another man? I shudder when I think what that girl must have been through when her father 'touched' her the first time. Her world must have come crashing down. She must have been paralysed with terror and wondered whom to turn to for help when her own protector became her attacker! And this  girl had to endure the ordeal   for nearly 12 years! She also has a daughter, allegedly, from her father! What sort of life must she have lived all these years, what with her mother thrown out of her life and her father tormenting her no end? She must have just stepped into adolescence when she was first attacked and from then on her life must have been one hellish experience!  
      Fathers strive their entire lives to give their daughters the best in life. They keep their little girls protected and well cocooned and pray for their well being when the time comes for them to fly away. And this poor girl... who did she get in the form of a father? A beast who robbed her of her modesty, her innocence, in fact, her life. For him she must have been an object he used as per his whims and fancies. 
     Oh God! It sends shivers down my spine just to think what  she must have felt when she must have looked into those eyes! Is her life going to be a never ending battle of coming to terms with what happened with her? Of fighting for justice in the court of law and getting her father convicted for  committing a horrid act? Will she ever know a father's love? And lastly, will she ever get to spend the rest of her life normally...in the company of her loved ones? 

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