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Women's Day.

         Tomorrow the world will be celebrating International Women's Day.  It will  be something important for many women who will be raising a toast to themselves and their like, revelling in some attention heaped upon them by the society or even their families ( their better halves ). But, for many more women, it will be just another day, which will begin and end with them toiling for their families and a complete neglect for themselves. I know, I sound cynical and least enthusiastic about such a big day in the lives of half of the world's population. But, is it really that important a day in our lives? I don't think so.
         There will be articles written about how women need to come into their own, raise their voices against atrocities and work towards being on par with men. How, the society needs to wake up to the problems faced by women and strive to make the world a safer place for them. So, I won't be talking anything on these topics here. I would just  like to share my feelings about Women's Day from a house wife's , oh...sorry! home maker's point of view. What it is that I would like to see happening in my (as well as many others like me) life.
         Some time back, I read an article about how a husband asked his wife ( a home maker ) what she did the whole day. Tired of his incessant taunts, the smart woman decided to show him exactly what it was that she did. She did nothing! The kids went hungry,the dog had soiled the carpet, the house was in a shambles...in short, there was utter chaos that welcomed the man that day! I think, this applies to almost all the households that I know. So, dear husbands, I would like to inform you all that we may not be working in some corporate firms, earning in lakhs, but, we take care of our homes, kids and parents in your absence (kindly note that it is not 'your parents'/'your kids'). You may be very well aware of it, but, you need to show some appreciation for all that we do for you and our families.
       We women weren't born with the task of being the only ones to be polite and respectful while conversing  or dealing with you and everyone else in the family. So, kindly make it a point to speak politely to us ( when not arguing/fighting over trivial issues). That would definitely have a good impact on the children who seem to be really observant!  We don't need any surprise gifts ( which is a waste of money) or flowers ( which ultimately wilt and die). All we really need is to be shown some consideration when things do not happen according to your expectations. We are humans too. Likewise, kindly do not brush aside the suggestions we make, We too possess a mind that has the ability to think rationally and logically.
     And, lastly, along with all of the above, please give us your most precious gift...your time. The fast lives that we lead make time fly in the blink of an eye. Your work and your social lives leave no time for us because of which we feel the gap between two souls increasing by the day. Thats all that I have to ask for. I don't think it is an impossible job for go-getters like you! And this was not a taunt...! You all ARE go-getters, aren't you?
     The day my above wishes get fulfilled will be the day I celebrate Women's Day. Till then, I will wait ...and watch...with all the patience I have been blessed with!
    Thank you!

The above blog was not meant to sound sarcastic....but, if it did, then kindly re-read it.....the tone used was calm, polite and respectful!

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