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The BFF therapy.

           Yesterday, I had the most fulfilling time in the past couple of months. I met my best friend. And as it goes with best friends, she is one with whom I can simply let my hair down, and also my guard! It is human nature to portray ourselves as someone we are, actually, not. But, there are some  people in our lives with whom there is no need, whatsoever, to hide beneath a mask. And, our best friends are the only people that come under this category. And because these people make my life beautiful, I simply had to write about them!
         There are two such girls who fall into the above category. One, with whom I have grown up, lives in the US of A. We HAVE to write to each other everyday. Our respective spouses wonder what it is that we so need to discuss on a daily basis. Although I am very grateful to Mr. Mark Zuckerberg for bringing the world closer, I rue the fact that I cannot meet Pri as often as we did when we were kids. You are being sorely missed, Pri. But, I am happy for you. Be where you are!!
        Pri and I became friends quite unknowingly. We belonged to the same group in our dance class for 5 years before we actually came to know each other!  But, it was our Arangetram that brought us into each other's company. We hit it off from the word go! And, here we are today, 26 years later, comfortably ensconced in each other's lives, with no way out!
         Pri can read me like the back of her hand. I don't even need to open my mouth. One look ( when we used to meet earlier) and one word ( on FB messages ) and she knows my frame of mind. Well, not only my frame of mind, but also my contemplations, reach her faster than light! In spite of this, I know I need not be on guard. She accepts me the way I am -- no judgements passed.
       Ditto with this other girl, B. Bubbly is what I have named her for her cheerful demeanour, even in the face of a crisis. We have known each other since the last 15 years. We, too, hit it off instantly. And, she may not know, but I feel so safe when she is around. Her stature belies her gutsy nature. Thankfully, she stays close by. Actually, not as close as I would like, but close nonetheless. And that is such a relief! We can talk about anything under the sun. Anything. Our chats are those 'no-holds-barred' kind. Not only when we meet, but also our telephonic conversations can be real mood-uplifters!
       Spending  time with both these girls can be rejuvenating. So much so, that after I returned home last night, I found that while cooking some thing, hubby, by mistake, had spoiled a vessel -- burnt it completely. But, it had absolutely no effect on me! I told him to just chill and get another one. That's all! Why spoil my gorgeous mood and my beautiful day? Such is the effect BFF therapy has on my mind. And, I am sure, it must be the case with everyone around!
       I have heard that people come into our lives and then go away, just like seasons. I have experienced it, too. I did make some wonderful friends, who, because of some reasons, are no longer in touch. But, this for a fact I do know, that whatever happens, wherever I go, these two girls will be always there, with me, by my side. They are like the Pole Star. Steady. In one place -- my heart.
      I know, I could have expressed these feeling to them verbally. But then while doing so, I would sure have choked and that would have been too melodramatic! I don't want to see tears in their eyes. I want to see their happy smiles. And, thus this post.
      I still am in a state of  buoyancy, thanks to yesterday's rendezvous with Bubbly. Hope this state continues, undiminished!
      Babes, this post is just for you. You boost my morale, lift my mood, give me your shoulder when I need one  and give me tremendous happiness every time we have our  heart-to-heart chats.  I simply cannot imagine life without the two of you.
     Here's to my favourite girls and to our reviving therapy!
    Love you lots! 

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  1. Honored to be one of them! Ditto to all that you said. I feel the same love and affection for you. Cheers to our friendship.

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  2. It's always awesome to have such friends that exude positive energy and happiness:)

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    1. It is, indeed, a blessing to have such friends!

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  3. Hey- very well written post!
    :)

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